Our own state matters…
As parents or carers looking after others who are struggling, you may be dealing with high levels of stress, anxiety, social, emotional difficulties or challenging behaviour. You may be on the receiving end of anger or aggression or at a loss how to help a distraught or disconnected child. You may feel overwhelmed or have physical symptoms such as headaches, digestive problems or difficulty sleeping. The process of finding and accessing the right support can also be challenging and stressful in itself.
You might be so focused on trying to help, to support or to fix problems, that you forget to look after yourself and at what is going on for you. It's easy to underestimate the power of our your state and how impactful can be. Regulating, grounding and filling your own cup is essential to be able to care for and cope with all that is going on for others.
I offer therapies and workshops to support you, so that you feel more able to support those in your life who are experiencing difficulty; time for you to think about what you need and practical skills to use for yourself. I also offer workshops to support you with self care and co-regulation, and to provide techniques and tools for you to use with those you care for. Click here for information on individual therapies.
"Jane’s excellent therapy has helped me greatly in times of stress, pain and when
trying to conceive. I am so grateful to her as she goes above and beyond. Jane is
extremely skilled and astute to the needs of her clients. I cannot thank her enough."
Functional Reflex Therapy Rainbow relaxation Routine - techniques to support a sense of calm and connection.
These workshops provide parents, family members and primary carers with an easy to learn, structured relaxation routine for the hands and feet, to use with their families or those in their care.
Developed from reflexology, the sequence may be especially helpful for children and adults with high levels of anxiety, special educational needs and disabilities, and autism, promoting calm, relaxation and aiding sleep. It is also an enjoyable beneficial experience for more vulnerable adults with dementia and Alzheimer’s.
Sessions are practical and easy to follow and are offered 1:1 or in small groups, over consecutive weeks. All resources are included and often people find it as relaxing to give as it is to receive!
Self care and co-regulation -supporting you so that you feel more able to deal with what life is throwing at you.
If we are able to take care of ourselves and take time to stabilise our own emotional, physiological and physical well being, we are more likely to be able to support change in those around us, without impacting on our own health. Our own self-care and regulation is so important when trying to support others.
The young people in our lives, take their cues from us; they read our facial expressions and body language and listen to our tone of voice. Co-regulation opens up a loop of safety and stability, where everyone can share difficulties more easily and find emotional regulation together.